Money Etiquette: How to Politely Ask for a Honeymoon Fund

Have you been to a wedding that used Honeyfund or similar registry in place of traditional gifts? These new-age registries are becoming more and more popular and a variety of reasons has lead to the sudden increase. Couples are more likely to live together before marriage and are moving to smaller apartments in big cities.

Either way, a honeymoon fund – commonly referred to as a honeyfund – is a great option for those who want to take a grand vacation after their wedding but need a little help. But, what is the polite way to ask for this kind of gift?

How to Spread the Word

The best place to spread the word is your wedding website. Most templates come preloaded with a page specifically for registries, making it easy to add the link to your honeymoon fund there. You can also add a small story, or give some context, to why you are choosing a honeymoon fund over traditional registries. When my husband and I were engaged we did just this. We explained we were about to move to NYC, a city notorious for tiny apartments and were only moving with the bare minimum. We told our guests that coming to our destination wedding was a gift itself! But, if they still wanted to gift us something we had a honeymoon fund set up.

You can also choose to add a small registry card to your main wedding invitation. This is very popular as well and an easy way to reference your honeymoon fund and your wedding website.

Setting up Your Honeyfund Account

Setting up an account with Honeyfund, the most popular of the honeymoon fund websites, is extremely easy. Once you register, you create a profile adding your wedding details and honeymoon dreams. You can then design custom gifts for your guests to choose from. Money for airline tickets, hotel upgrades, spa visits, excursions. All of these are created by you, so the sky’s the limit! Do be aware if a guest gifts you $100 towards airline tickets you don’t have to use the money on airline tickets. The gifts are in name only.

Fees on Honeymoon Funds

There are actually very few fees that are associated with most online honeymoon funds. If guests gift you via gift cards bought through the web services or offline they pay zero fees. Any credit or debit gift is charged a small fee between 1-3%.

Other Registries Besides Honeyfund

While Honeyfund was the first and most well known of the new-age registries, there are a couple other choices that all offer different advantages. Check out Zola, Blueprint Registry, or Travelers Joy for other options.

Bottom Line

At the end of the day if you still feel weird, remember that all wedding registries used to be considered tacky and these new registries are becoming much more common. Just don’t forget to send out thank you cards!